Water your damn lawn...

Why does everyone think the grass is greener on the other side? Over the past week I have heard people say this phrase or a variation of it 10 or so times. I agree with the statement in most cases because its true, the grass is greener on the other side. However that grass is also filled with dog sh**, because dogs always target the greenest patch.

Now my question to you is, why is the grass greener on the other side? Why is it that the sun seems to shine more when you aren't there or the rain falls on that side of the hill but not ours?

My theory is because we don't water our own lawns. People are always so worked up about other peoples lives and what they have that you don't. Why ME? If people spent as much time gossiping and talking about doing things on creating a better life for themselves and their families. If they would water there own lawns the grass wouldn't be so bad on your side.

Alright enough metaphors, I don't think any of my audience are philosophy majors anyways. Basically what I'm trying to say is to live your own life. I have been blessed with an amazing relationship with my wife. So I can't harp to much on your relationship problems. However, I have thought a lot about relationships and why mine works so well. Why is it that Justine and I can have a whirlwind hit us and we are still standing? If you follow my blog you know what the answer is to this, if not go read my previous posts NOW. Just kidding you don't have to.

What would you say the most common reason for divorce is? Money, cheating, falling out of love. Is it possible to fall out of love? If the love was true in the first place? Statistically speaking, the number one reason for divorce in the world is COMMUNICATION. How can you expect to be with someone you interact with during at least 50 % of your day and not talk about how to do that. The second most common is money. I think money should be apart of the first reason and I can guarantee that you lack communication about money with your spouse. I'm not talking about saying "hey can I have 5 bucks for gas" Should read "hey can  I have 60$ to get a 1/4 tank of gas. What I'm saying is devising a plan to live on less than you make. A written budget that both of you either make together or agree upon together. A written budget is a plan that says where every dollar you make goes and you have to stick to it.

Justine and I have done this for the past few months and it has literally changed not only the way we spend our hard earned money but changed our relationship for the better. We don't argue about money. She writes up the budget once a week and shows it to me and we agree on a final product.

In conclusion, don't worry about whats on the other side, green grass or not. Try watering your own lawn first and if it doesn't become green try planting new seeds of grass. Sooner or later you will have a putting green that you can call your own, and dogs aren't allowed to sh** on putting greens....

Thanks for reading my  blog rant....

Till Next time

Trevor C.

My thoughts on becoming a dad...

As most of you know I'm on the verge of becoming a father of my first child, a baby girl by the name of Makenna to be exact. I cant even begin to explain the emotions that have gone through my mind body and soul over the past 8 months of my life. From the day we found out we were having a baby to this morning when I kissed my wife's belly to say good-bye for the day. There is a certain feeling that takes over your body when you know you are going to have this tiny little life that will look to you for everything for the rest of their lives.

I will be the first to tell you that I am an ignorant man when it comes to children and definitely little girls. At first I was like most young men having a child for the first time. Its a BOY and I wont except anything else. I was shocked and stunned as myself and 18 of my closest family and friends sat the ultrasound room that day. To my demise and embarrassment, we... were having a baby girl. "WOOOOO haha Trevor you were wrong hahaha" filled the room as everyone pointed at me because I was certain it was a boy. Little did I know they were the ones who got the short end of the stick.

The relationship between a daughter and her dad is like nothing else on earth. As I felt the deadening sound of my "people" rubbing it in, I thought of the relationship my mom has with her father. They are the epitome of a father-daughter relationship. They talk everyday even though they live 388.6 miles away from each other. They know each other better than anyone else but god. I was the man saying " I am a man, I don't even have the ability to make a girl its impossible" and now I am sitting at work writing a blog about how stupid I was and how mesmerized I am by the fact that I am going to raise a a baby girl to become a strong minded beautiful woman.

It's funny how much you are willing to do for this person that you can't see, you can't hear, and makes the person you love more than anything else in the world act like shes possessed by the devil at times. I am working my a** off working 60-70 hour work weeks for some little girl that I can't even hug when I get home yet. Then again it feels so natural and easy.

So I am starting to get back on my blog to get rid of my anxiety, and emotions that are changing on a daily basis and hopefully I can help some of my readers in the process...

Till Next time