Now that she is almost 11 months old and I think about this day it just amazes me so much. I am a father of a little innocent girl. I am blessed with the perfect little family, my wife and I couldn't be happier. Although we love our daughter it does put added pressure on your relationship and we have made a ton of tough decisions. With a baby comes a ton of changes to our lives, from changing careers to houses.
When Makenna was born we were elated and filled with optimism and energy. Then came the sleepless nights and colic. OHHH BOY the Colic is hoooorrriiiibblllleeeeeee. For those of you who don't know what colic is- a condition in which an otherwise healthy baby cries or displays symptoms of distress (cramping, moaning, etc.) frequently and for extended periods, without any discernible reason. Without getting into to much detail I must say it was very hard on our relationship and I am grateful to be in a such a strong relationship. During these times Justine and I would remind each other that our relationship is just as important as our daughter and for us to have time for just us. OMG was that easier said than done. It's crazy to think that this 10 lb creature needs so much time and energy.
Early on we had agreed that we wanted to raise our daughter by ourselves as much as possible not only for her sake but for my wallet too. So in order for us to this we have to have opposite schedules for the most part. She works day and I work night My days off when she works and so on. This was a huge mistake on our part, it is just not feasible. It made us feel like we were both single parents raising this child by ourselves. Then the hardship it puts on our relationship was horrible. I never got to see my wife unless we occasionally had the same day off. We both agreed this had to stop so we opened our schedules a little more and it has really helped.
Now we are taking a step further and going on dates every other weekend which so far is a blast and a great time to catch up with each other. We go every other weekend because the off weekend we watch our baby sitters kid so they can go on a date and we call it even. One month in and I am wondering why this didn't happen months ago. I get to continue learning about my wife. Our conversations aren't pointless/lifeless jargon just spewing out of our mouths. This is just a rant/reminder to everyone that relationships are just as important as your kids. Remember they wouldn't be here if you didn't fall in love.
Peace
PS- I didn't plan to write this so don't mind the horrible flow and grammar stuff, remember "Aint' nobody got time fo dat"
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