Its Complicated...

Why is it that 95% of relationship advise is from a woman's perspective and yet men always are asking "What do women want"? I understand  that women are conveniently and rightfully complicated, but I also understand the mans way of thinking is not that. Men are habitual beings, in that, they will find something that makes them happy and continually do that until they are not satisfied anymore. Men don't like to work hard at making something work that they don't want to work.(confusing i know) If you ask a man to fix the lawnmower so that he can mow the lawn what will his brain say? HELL NO ill go get a new lawnmower that will mow the lawn for me or ask Bill the guy who is hired to do all my buddy's lawns. (LM inside joke) I am a very habitual person. I like to have things my way everyday the same until I am unsatisfied. Hence me owning 9 cars in my very short span of having my license. I love my cars everyday just as they are for a while then I hate them and say screw it I'm going to get a new car today. Good thing my wife has learned quickly that this little habit of mine is me and it would probably drive most women crazy i.e. my mom. But not my wife she loves the things that would drive other girls crazy and I love the things about her that would drive other guys crazy.<the true meaning of love.

Women on the other hand are complicated and like things there way depending on what day it is  what time of day it is. Which from a mans perspective is very annoying and frustrating. What us men have to realize is that what women want isn't always a specific answer that works every time whether we like it or not. There is no permanent solution to a women's problem there is only a temporary one. Have you ever asked a women what she wants to eat for dinner and you end up having to name off every restaurant in every cuisine in California (wait till shes pregnant the list gets short real quick)? Then, when you get to that restaurant, they sit there for 3 hours looking at the menu and then end up getting the same thing they got last week when you went through this. And women have you ever noticed that when we(men) pull up to the place and know exactly what we want and approx. how long it should take to receive that meal? We are habitual, we order the same food every time because that is how are brain works. Until they come out with a better version of that item we stick to it because we know we like it and it satisfies our need.

Why is knowing these things important to a healthy and happy relationship?
I think about the little nuances of women and men a lot. This one has always stuck with me and I see it all to often. Men have to realize that women over think everything and need time and an understanding man to give that to them. Women need to also understand that we know what we want and to stop asking "do you know what you want?" because the answer is always yes, trust me. Whether it is dinner or picking out a new car, don't bother. Justine and I understand these principles and use them daily. I know that if I ask her how her day was I am going to hear exactly word for word every conversation that she had that day and how everyone looks at her stomach before they ever look at her face (shes preggo) and how it annoys her ... okay you get the point. She knows if she asks how my day was, "good" is as good as it gets in most cases with the occasional "I hate in-n-out" thrown in there. 

PS If you have any questions that you would like me to write about, ask and if you want to know an answer to a certain situation I would love to answer it and give my two cents.