Relay-tionship

A relay race is ran by a team of athletes who work together to complete a certain distance. All doing there part to get the job done. Sometimes you have to pick up slack for the other players and sometimes they have to pick up for you. Incidents happen like dropping the baton, tripping, and injuries. However, no matter what happens you can still win.

What words come to mind when you hear the word "team"? Fun, loyalty, excitement, hard work, kinship, sacrifice, cooperation, and collaboration come to my mind. The definition of team is "a number of persons associated in some joint action". I know that Justine and I are a great team. We love working together in order to achieve a goal. Whether it be paying bills on time, schooling, excelling at work, or being very hard to beat in a game of beer pong, as a lot of my readers will agree ;). 


Now, what words come to your mind when you hear the word "relationship"? 
It's my guess that it might be some of the same words, (fun, sacrifice, loyalty, hard work, cooperation) yet we don't act like it. Not only do we not act like we are a team but sometimes we get the feeling that we are on opposite teams. How many times have you and your spouse said "but I did it last time, or I did this and that and you didn't do anything"? Why is it programmed in our brain to so called "take score" of our relationship? When you are on a sports team do you blame the other players for something you didn't do and was supposed to do or do you man up and say no its my fault and I will take care of it? This is a huge part of a relationship. A very smart man once told me that a marriage is a partnership where each individual gives 90% and expects 10%. If you think a 50/50 relationship will work, you are setting yourself up for failure.

I was trying to figure out all day what to write about on my blog and even though I have a lot of experiences and stories it is always better to have something relevant. After working all day I still couldn't pinpoint what to write about. Then I got home and little miss preggo decided it was fall cleaning time(I think the nesting thing is starting to kick in). I always sometimes help out around the house and after 4 years my wife knows this about me so she really only expects 10% out of me and is willing to do the other 90%. However, I want to give my 90% and help her out as much as possible. So before you know we are detailing the house from top to bottom including our dog Harley. Three hours later what do you know a blog idea. This not only makes Justine happy because I exceeded here expectations but it also makes me feel good knowing I did. 


Thinking and acting like your relationship as a team is a great way to instill a strong foundation for a lifelong journey.